SHUT UP YOU MORONS, I HATE YOU!
I know, as a mother.........
Rule #1) No Yelling Inside, we use our quiet voices
Rule #2) No name calling.
Rule #3) Hate is a very strong word that we shouldn't use.
Rule #4) Never tell someone shut up, its rude, use words like "Can you be quiet please?", or "Hush"
But this is exactly what went through my head yesterday as I sat in the lobby of the therapy building.
First let me start off with the scene:
I am sitting in a chair with Daniel on my lap feeding him a bottle, Daniel to the "typical" world looks
"Normal". There is nothing apparent that Daniel has many medical issues when you first see him.
So there I sit feeding Daniel, and these two woman are sitting across the room from me, my back to them. Woman #1 has a little boy, that looks "typical" but she states (I'm overhearing her talking to Woman #2) that he has some speech problems and at 4 years old can't say mama yet, but can say dada...(why would he want to call your name you're a moron!)
Woman #2 has a little girl, that has very mild CP (I've talked to her briefly before), I would have never noticed that she had anything at all if she hadn't told me. She has a few speech issues.
Children of Woman #1 & 2 are playing together.
Ok so there is the scene. Here is what happened next.
Woman #1 and Woman #2 are talking.......and not talking quietly so you can't help but hear what they are saying.
Woman #1: We also go to PT for son because he isn't running quite right, and we need to work on that. Oh there is this woman that is also there at the same time we are and she had this little boy must be around 2 years old, and he can't do anything. He lays there and can't roll over, crawl, move his arms much...."(blah blah blah, she is basically describing some of the things that Daniel can't do yet)
Ok get ready....
Woman#1: Oh, if "son" was like that I would just kill myself, I wouldn't want to have to handle all of that. I just can't imagine.....can you imagine that?" "Oh and the mother is pregnant again....not on my life.......can you imagine having two children when one is a vegetable like that?" Oh I just feel so sorry for that mom, and what a waste of money....can you imagine having a child like THAT?
ARE YOU FRICKIN' KIDDING ME??! Look around you MORON........you're at a physical/occupational/speech rehabilitation center.....wanna lower your voice and perhaps keep your asinine comments to yourself??
Maybe I am just a very touchy person........but this so bothered me. What the he!! do I care what this woman thinks? Maybe its because she is so far off base on how I'm sure that mother of the child with the issues really thinks. I have NEVER in Daniel's whole life thought, well all this therapy is certainly a waste of money....why bother? SERIOUSLY?!?! I wanted to scream at her......what is wrong with YOU!?!?
Did you by chance think, you MORON.....that the child you are referring to as a vegetable, possibly has Cerebral Palsy and his body just isn't working for him, but that maybe his mind is fully there and functioning and he sees you staring at him with a look of disgust or pity in your eyes?
Who the hell are you to judge if that family is happy, or what life would be like.
#1.........do you think that they would choose to have their child have those issues?
#2........just because your child is not "typical" doesn't mean your life is over and that everything sucks.
You change your prospective on what normal is. Yes my normal has changed, but you know what when I sit and think about it.....my normal 3 years ago sucks compared to my normal now.
This normal is way better.
Now........I'm sending myself to my room and bed early for breaking 4 rules and not behaving in public and offering to assist her in anyway possible to accomplish her task.
if "son" was like that I would just kill myself!
What?? I was just trying to HELP!